Around here, mostly Nama.
This is not a lifestyle site. It’s not a wellness brand or a parenting blog or a place where I pretend to have things figured out. It’s a personal memoir site. I write what happened — or what I think happened, perception is a fickle thing or what I’m still trying to understand — as precisely and honestly as I can manage.
The Name
Where Nama Came From
“Nama” started as a grandmother name — a soft, round word a small voice could manage, the kind of name that gets called across a yard. It stayed because it fit something I hadn’t named yet. It sounds gentle and domestic. The person who answers to it is sometimes those things. The writing, mostly, is not.
The Writing
Why I Write
I don’t write to inspire you. I don’t write to teach lessons or to perform wellness or gratitude. I write because putting words in order is sometimes the only way I can see what actually happened. Because occasionally someone reads a piece and thinks, “oh shit, me too” — and that matters enough to keep doing it.
The Life Around It
What’s in the Room
I’m married. The marriage has lived through things that were supposed to break it, and some that almost did. I have kids who grew up and moved into their own lives, which is its own disorienting country. I live in a body that has given me trouble and rewritten my limits. The years have changed me in ways I didn’t see coming. The people around me matter here, but they are not material. No names unless necessary. No one else’s private story gets told without a lot of care.
What You’ll Find Here
What You’ll Find Here
The pieces here circle the same territory from different angles: marriage, family, midlife, motherhood after the busy years, illness, identity, aging, memory, mistakes, and the strange, ordinary domestic life that quietly turns out to be everything.
Marriage · Family · Midlife · Motherhood after the active years · Illness & the body · Identity & aging · Domestic life · Memory · Mistakes
The Disclaimer
A few things worth saying
I’m not a therapist. I’m not a doctor. I’m not your life coach. I’m a person who writes things down and publishes them on the internet. Nothing here is professional advice. If something I write upsets you, that’s probably a conversation worth having with yourself, or with someone you trust.
“Sometimes I figure something out. Sometimes I just write down the mess accurately enough that somebody else recognizes it.”
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